Keelah Se’lai.

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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • As some who has had 20+ piercings over the years and who knows people who have piercings. Generally we don’t get them because we think other people will find them attractive, we get them because we think they look good. I’m down to 4 piercings now because of things like jobs, but I do miss them.

    Everyone’s tastes are different, while I think piercings look cool. I don’t think everyone suits them. An eyebrow piercing can look awesome on one person, and awful on another.
    And some people flat out dislike them. That’s fine. So long as people aren’t shoving their opinions down people’s throats and trying to force them to change, differing opinions are a good thing. The world would be very boring if we were all the same.

    I’m the nerd with tattoos, dyed hair and piercings. A lot of people make shitty comments and I also get a lot of compliments. I don’t see the need people have to go up to and say or shout across the street a shitty comment at someone. Their choice in clothing/ piercings/ body art doesn’t affect your life. Move on. If someone thinks I look awful, that’s fine, that’s their view, I’m good with that. But outright going out of your way to voice your shitty comment to someone, that’s not cool.

    My point is, your opinion is fine. But if you then attack someone because of that opinion, that’s not okay.


  • I’ve worked retail, office jobs, call center jobs and warehouse jobs. I made an office ‘friend’ in two of those jobs. One who id grab drinks with outside of work and another who id chat to via text occasionally. But as our jobs changed and lives moved on. So did we.

    I don’t feel the need to be forced into social situations, people are tiring and there’s better things I could spend my time on that being shoved into a room with co-works who I have no interest in talking to and have no interest in talking to me.

    Both my best friends are long distance friends. I’ve known one for 13 years, we’ve met up once. And one for 9 years who I’ve never met in person. And they’re the best friends I’ve ever had. If they have issues, I’m right there via text or call to help. Same if I have issues. We send eachother gifts for birthdays/ Christmas, or just because. The 9 year friend and I do a book trade and recommend eachother things we think the other would like (not just book recommendations).

    My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years now, we live in different countries. And it’s honestly the best relationship I’ve ever had. Not because of the distance, we visit eachother multiple times a year. But the distance also isn’t an issue.

    So long distance friendships/ relationships can work.

    Just because some people need that face to face interaction, doesn’t mean everyone else does. Especially when it’s forced by a workplace. If it was to meet up with a friend, I’m sure it would be more welcomed. But being made to meet up with co-workers who aren’t friends/ close with, that sounds miserable. Being made to do something you don’t want to do/ aren’t interested in is never fun. Ever try get a teenager to clean their room? Often not very high on their list because it’s something they don’t want to do. The same can be said for social events with co-workers for a lot of people.


  • I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn’t think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn’t a socially ‘acceptable’ response.

    Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it’s just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.


  • Oh, okay then. Sorry for getting defensive, I just see this kind of thing a lot. And I know that people are quick to label social difficulties as autism, so it gets kinda of tiring that people generally label everything out of the ordinary as being autism.

    Question, if you don’t mind.
    Does not being able to interpret others emotions make you anxious or avoid talking to people?
    I’m oddly hypersensitive to others emotions, which can be pretty tiring in itself actually. So I’m curious how it affects someone who isn’t.










  • Listen sweetheart. I’m saying drag queens wear make up as it’s an aggregated form of art for showbusiness. So take a seat at the back of the class and actually learn reading comprehension.

    I said drag queens aren’t the ones saying women need to wear makeup. I’m saying society is. And drag queens wear makeup as a form of art. What’s so hard to understand about that.

    Clearly you just hate drag queens. If your fragile female ego takes a beating cause a drag queen looks better than you. That’s a you problem.

    As a woman who doesn’t wear makeup. I think drag queens are great. They’re funny. They’re amazing at their form of art. And they’re also in a group that gets hate from the world, as the majority are gay. So I’m all for them going out there and doing what to do despite the hate and shit they get from homophobic fuckwads.


  • So you’re not a woman because drag queens wear make up?
    Sounds like you’re a bit of a transphobe with your underhanded digs.

    Drag queens wear heavy makeup because they’re men, and it’s show business. It’s an exaggerated art form.

    It’s not drag queens who propagate the women wear makeup stero type. It’s been a societal pressure for years now. Just like shaving legs, it’s about what society wants women to look like. Women were and still are in a lot of places, seen as objects who need to look pretty and keep quiet.
    So don’t blame drag queens for an issue that has been pushed by society for a long ass time.

    If people want to identify as male or female, that’s their choice. And their choice doesn’t affect you. Just like a person you don’t know getting a tattoo doesn’t affect you. Their body. Their choice.




  • I wouldn’t mind uniforms, if they weren’t like 3 times the price of regular clothes.
    My school sweater was a blue v-neck. But it had to have the school name and logo on it. So it was £50.
    If they’d just said, v-neck royal blue sweater and let people buy their own from whatever store, that’s fine. We had specific ties too, so if they just said we had to buy the ties from the school but the PE shorts/ netball skirts, football socks, polos and the school sweater should have been able to be purchased from any old store.

    I agree, non-uniform days were hell for me. I was the kid of the working class parent, and the emo/ goth kid. I didn’t own anything that wasn’t fitting of my aesthetic. So I got bullied badly. So I appreciated the uniform. But the prices are the issue. And school that demand girls wear skirts and not trousers, I have a huge issue with that. If girls want to wear trousers, it shouldn’t be an issue. It makes me question whether the people implementing the rules are just sexist, or sexist and pervvy.


  • Public schools here are insane. It’s like £50 for one sweater. And it’s got to have the school name/ logo on it. So you can’t just go and buy a generic sweater the same colour.
    And you’ve got to have at least 2, so when one is getting washed, you’d have one good to go.
    There’s black shoes, not trainers, but smart shoes.
    White shirts. Black pants/ skirts. Specific socks. £15 a tie, which is specifically in school colours so no going out to buy a cheap generic tie.
    Then there’s the PE kit that has to be bought from the school. £20 for shorts. £20 for the polo. £10 for football socks.

    Altogether when you’re done it’s around £300. Which, if you’re generally working class/ out of work, you’re fucked.
    My sweaters faded after half a year, so mum had to buy more. They’d of fit me the entire time, but she had to buy new ones pretty much every 6 months because they just faded in the wash. And that was in the 00s. My mum hates buying uniform for my younger sisters, apparently it’s crazy priced.
    Now schools here are doing blazers too, god knows how much they are.


  • Christ on a bike. You’re allowed to not like something, that’s fine. But your opinion isn’t law.

    Removing children from parents for a party, and saying they’re better off being abused in a system rather than with their family because they… Threw a party. That’s unhinged. You have serious unchecked mental health issues.

    Maybe I should lose my kid then. Because I bought food and one confetti filled balloon to do a tiny reveal for my 6 year old sister because she was insanely excited to know if she’d have a niece or a nephew. God forbid I wanted to do something cute for my sister. I hate parties, I hate big celebrations and small ones. But seeing her smile and basically vibrate because pink confetti fell out of a balloon was such a cute moment. There was 4 of us there in total, me, her, my mum and my stepdad. We already knew. But wanted to make it a little bit extra fun for my sister. So please, tell me how I’m narcissistic for wanting to bring a little excitement to a child’s day.


  • It’s not a video game. If you cast locate object, it’s not going to pop up with a map marker with the distance counting down below it as you get closer. It just located an object within that range. You don’t see the range circle, you just know the object is somewhere in range of your spell.

    You’ve been proven wrong. Official text in a source book even states the maps aren’t accurate. So take the L and stop trying to prove you’re right. You come across as a sore loser, and honestly, a bit of a dick to keep pushing when you’ve been proven wrong.